I love coffee. I don’t feel guilty about how much I love coffee. Not in the slightest. It’s my calming agent. The rock I need when the seas turn stormy.
There is nothing that gets me started for the day like my morning cups of coffee, and the cup I have in the last hour of work, or right after I finish work for the day, eases me into a calm and productive evening.
I feel a smile coming on just thinking about my favorite beverage.
And now, I have a couple more reasons to love it.
Monday, November 28, 2011
Friday, November 25, 2011
Penn's guide to buying pants for butch, tomboy-ish, or otherwise non-feminine women
It is no secret that gay men get all of the attention when it comes to fashion. It is an absolute fallacy that all gay men are born with the knowledge of how to dress well (I've known a disaster case or two to disprove that), but it is not a fallacy that many gay women are clueless about how to dress.
There is a certain cross-section of gay women that seems to fall victim to this stereotype most often: those labelled "butch", "boi", "tomboy", or simply put, "non-feminine". (And let me state that this affliction is by no means exclusive to the gay set. Plenty of non-feminine straight women get sucked into the same traps, so this is aimed at them, too.)
If you're wondering how it is possible that so many gay men have figured out the rules of fashion, but the other side of the gay aisle has fallen flat in this area, I can sum it up for you in one word: mentoring. When a man put up his rainbow flag, his gay companions are more than happy to teach him the ropes of how to dress, wear his hair, what cologne to buy, etc.
Gay women don't often get these lessons. If any suggestions are offered to the newly-minted lesbian, all to often, they include suggestions on how to be the perceived opposite of a heterosexual woman (don't shave, neatness isn't always a virtue, showering = optional, and more). Trust me - looking and smelling nice for your partner IS a virtue, and it will help you keep them longer.
Too often, non-feminine women just don't know how to choose clothes that both reflect their inner selves and are flattering to their outer selves. That's ok, I can help.
There is a certain cross-section of gay women that seems to fall victim to this stereotype most often: those labelled "butch", "boi", "tomboy", or simply put, "non-feminine". (And let me state that this affliction is by no means exclusive to the gay set. Plenty of non-feminine straight women get sucked into the same traps, so this is aimed at them, too.)
If you're wondering how it is possible that so many gay men have figured out the rules of fashion, but the other side of the gay aisle has fallen flat in this area, I can sum it up for you in one word: mentoring. When a man put up his rainbow flag, his gay companions are more than happy to teach him the ropes of how to dress, wear his hair, what cologne to buy, etc.
Gay women don't often get these lessons. If any suggestions are offered to the newly-minted lesbian, all to often, they include suggestions on how to be the perceived opposite of a heterosexual woman (don't shave, neatness isn't always a virtue, showering = optional, and more). Trust me - looking and smelling nice for your partner IS a virtue, and it will help you keep them longer.
Too often, non-feminine women just don't know how to choose clothes that both reflect their inner selves and are flattering to their outer selves. That's ok, I can help.
Friday, November 11, 2011
Proud to have never gone to PSU
Never have I been so proud to say I’m a Pitt alum as I have been since the Penn State scandal hit the news wire. The scandal that has rocked Penn State University is terrible, unthinkable, and the path of its destruction is only growing.
I'm at a loss to understand how PSU's football program could ignore child sex-abuse allegations against Jerry Sandusky and allow him to continue to have access to not only more potential victims, but access to them in PSU's own facilities. I'm even more at a loss to understand how an eyewitness to the abuse could witness what he did and not immediately contact the police, and then later he became a Penn State coach.
I'm at a loss to understand how PSU's football program could ignore child sex-abuse allegations against Jerry Sandusky and allow him to continue to have access to not only more potential victims, but access to them in PSU's own facilities. I'm even more at a loss to understand how an eyewitness to the abuse could witness what he did and not immediately contact the police, and then later he became a Penn State coach.
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